"It is more important to DO right, than it is to BE right.."

By SamanthaLogic
Feb. 01, 2017

This title is a quote I heard one day on a drive home from one of my early morning workouts this past summer.  It stuck with me for the last 8 or 9 months.  This was before the election, but obviously during campaigning for our presidency.  I thought about it over and over again and it has taken over my mind countless times since then.. And this is where it has led me:

We all like to hear ourselves talk to an extent (yes, some more so than others). However, this is exactly where our greatest divide will come in the emerging era of the new president of our country.

Everyone wants to get into these “arguments” on social media… I am here to tell you, only arguing doesn’t do a damn thing.

There are a few positives that could potentially come from our recent election, however you look on the results:

• This inclines many of our citizens to want to pay more attention to our politicians and to pay more attention to what’s going on in our country and in our world. I will warn you to not believe everything you see on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or even some news outlets. Everyone is pushing their own agenda, and hides details and facts to skew stories. You must be diligent in your research, and look up many different outlets to get a realistic picture painted.

• There is no way to deny our faults as a country on minority groups’ treatment. 

To anyone complaining about the protestors:

1 - If you protested President Obama’s election, do not comment on the recent ones and say that people are being “sore losers” or solely “entitled.”  

• What you can do: Believe what you want, while remembering that you DO NOT get to tell people what to believe or invalidate anyone’s feelings or experiences.

2 - If you are not a minority in any sense of the word, you very may well not have a clue what happens to people of color, women and people identifying as anything other than Christian and heterosexual.

• What you can do: Still treat these groups as human beings, not only because it’s the most basic fact there is, but because in America, that’s what we were founded on: the right to be different (I promise, it’s not that scary).

3 - If you have never felt marginalized, or thought: “what do I do (insert place) because I will be the only (insert minority status)…” you might want to listen to someone (or many people) who has done that, or [preferably] people who live in that scenario day to day.

• What you can do (for all three scenarios): Learn something from situations you have never been in (and not in the sense of Nicholas Sparks novels). Read articles, opinions or watch news stations that you normally wouldn’t and that have a different perspective than you do. Have an open mind in order to grow as an individual, so we have a fighting chance to make some sort of progress in our country.

What you can do, again, for all three scenarios: open your mind to the fact that, “you know what? I may not be right in this circumstance.” Humble yourself.

To be fully honest, I work on this myself.  I disagree with many (if not all) of our new president’s ideas and policies, not to mention nearly all of his racist, sexist and hateful stereotypes and remarks. I have a right to do that.. But I also don’t like being told I’m wrong. I like, no I LOVE, to win.  I like to be right.. So when I get heated, I argue. This is where I have tended to stop listening. This is what we do. This is what we need to stop. We need to grow. 

[{We need to stop being worried about proving our point to BE right, and start worrying about DOING right…}]

To protestors:

-Command respect and attention, but let’s not do things that allow people to detract and talk about anything other than the authentic message, which needs to be heard.

-Don’t let how we protest take away from what we protest.

-Be genuine in your protesting.. Don’t just walk up to show face and post it on Instagram, so you get likes or favorites, or whatever they’re called.

Solutions for everyone:

DO something.

• What actions and steps are you going to take in your every day life? Will you call out your racist uncle? Will you speak up when any derogatory term towards any sort of minority group is said?

• Will you take a course to learn your own privilege? Will you back someone who is different from you?

• Will you hear a side of the story you’ve never thought of before?

• Will you treat everyone with the respect of a human being?

• Again, will we open our mind to the fact that, “you know what I may not be right in this exact moment”?

This is may not be an easy task, but it is a worthwhile one. This is not easy to accept, to learn that just by who you your parents are, you may have more privilege because of your skin color, sex, orientation, social class and spiritual beliefs. Many of these literally due to the random pairing of alleles from your ancestors… It is not easy to admit being wrong, or to relearn ways of thinking. It is not easy.

But we need to stop being so proud, start by gaining some humility and opening our hearts and minds to the people in our country. Our friends. Our neighbors. Our citizens.

We can’t just talk about it, we have to be about it.

Get off the social media arguments, we have work to do.

Side rant: STOP with the “love it or leave it,” my goodness, please stop. There are families that do not have the financial stability to be able to leave, or I’m sure they would. It is a privilege to be able to say that in itself..

On the flip side, those who say, “If he wins, I’m leaving”: this doesn’t help our country grow and it doesn’t help fix the problem. If everyone who disagrees with our president left, there would be only people left to reciprocate his ideals. We need strong, dedicated people to reverse this undeniable cycle of inequality for our minority groups.