#BellLetstalk - Hockey

Let's talk about that teammate on the bench who is always quiet and does not chirp like everyone else. Let's talk about that teammate who does is shy and will not join in on conversations. Let's talk about that teammate who seems "cold", aloof, or even a "b#$%h". Let's talk about that teammate who will not go out for beer after the game. Let's talk about that teammate who will not look you in the eye, you know the "weird one".

What I am talking about is autism spectrum disorder. According to the American Psychiatric Association, one percent of the American population has it. What will add insult to Autism Spectrum Disorder is something called a dual diagnosis a.k.a another disorder. A few examples of those disorders may major depressive disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and social anxiety disorder.

I am that teammate who has autism spectrum disorder and no, I was not diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder until I was an adult. My family knows I have it, but it is not talked about openly. I had only been playing hockey for a year before I was diagnosed and I do not bring it up in conversations with those who I play with. I want to be seen as Liz, your teammate and not my autism.

Hockey is what helps me work on my social skills because in having autism spectrum disorder, you tend to prefer being alone. It forces me to communicate with my teammates which helps me off the ice. Loud noises can cause "melt-down" or panic attacks. That's why you do not see me out at the bar or will come to your Stanley Cup party. How a crowded room sounds me is like getting in front of a larger speaker that is being blasted on high.

I will be happy to talk socialize with you outside of hockey, just not in the bar. How about watching a hockey game instead? You do not need a bar for that. No, not all of us who have autism spectrum disorder have an emotional support animal/service dog. Legitimate service animals can cost over $20,000.

Coordination is a problem for many people who have autism spectrum disorder. Many of us are klutzes. Hockey is perfect for me because trying to move on that tiny piece of steel blade while chasing down a hard piece of rubber because I have to think about my actions. It is so easy to wipe out in hockey and take someone down with you.

So before you decide to judge or just be a jerk, take the time to look at the bigger picture. Mental illness is everywhere and it is on the rise around the world.